People In Your LIfe

Those who tell you only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit,
not yours.

Those who always agree with everything you say cannot provide you
with anything of real value.

Those who challenge you, whether they intend to help you or not,
do indeed help you to grow stronger.
Those who respect you enough to give you their true opinion,
provide valuable feedback.

Those who give you everything you want without asking anything
in return, can end up making you powerless and overly dependent.
Those who insist that you earn your keep are doing you a tremendous favor.
Those who let you get away with lying or cheating will push you
steadily toward despair.
Those who hold you accountable for all you do will help you to build true
and lasting self esteem.

Those who truly care about you are not always the easiest
or most comfortable to be around.
For they will consistently hold you to the very highest standards.
Yet they are the best kind of people to be around.
Because they will indeed help you to attain those high and
valuable standards.

Posted by happy-pns at 11:39 PM

LIFE IS........

Posted by happy-pns at 10:38 PM

9 Ways to Reduce Stress by Simplifying Your Style

The desire to reduce stress is a common goal for most people. We are so entrenched in our routines, habits, and ways of doing things we rarely stop and consider new ways of dealing with the stresses of daily living.

By simplifying your style, you are setting up how you are going to respond to stress creating events in advance. In other words, you are making a decision based on your desire to reduce stress in your life.

Your goal is to set up new ways of handling issues that bring about stress because of the negative emotions that they create. Here are 9 areas where you can simplify your style and in doing so reduce stress.

1. Stop Arguing

Arguing is a waste of time. No one ever wins. If you win an argument, the other person feels slighted and annoyed by you. If you lose, you feel this way about them.

Simplify your style into being a person who does not argue. You do this because you recognize the senselessness of arguing and your desire to reduce stress in your life.

2. Stop Giving Your Unsolicited Opinion

Closely related to arguing is the compulsion to give your opinion when you haven’t been asked for it. People instantly become resistant and defensive when someone gives their unsolicited opinion.

There’s a fine line between giving your opinion and offering a suggestion in a situation where some serious damage might occur. In these situations, I have found that asking carefully worded questions about the issue of concern works best.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t give your opinion unless you’re asked for it emphatically. You do this to improve your relationships and reduce stress in your body.

3. Stop Reacting When Others Speak Angrily

When people talk angrily about something, our tendency is to react to their anger by getting tight, defensive, and stressed. Unless the anger is directed at us, there is no logical reason to react this way.

You are not responsible for the other person’s anger, and no one else is responsible for causing or getting rid of your anger. If someone insists on vocalizing their anger about something, don’t allow yourself to be drawn into it.

Modify your style into being a person who does not react to another person’s anger. You do this because you know that it will reduce stress in your body and protect your health.

4. Stop Requiring Perfection of Yourself & Others

Perfection is an impossible objective. In reality, the drive for perfection gets in the way of creativity.

Giving up the need for perfection is a clear-cut way to reduce stress. Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t require perfection by knowing that it’s a fool’s quest.

5. Stop Trying to Please Everyone

Trying to please everyone is insanity. If you consider all the variations of personalities and likes and dislikes of people, it should be obvious that trying to please everyone is impossible and a waste of time.

If you were to just focus on pleasing yourself, the other people around you would reap the benefits because you’d be more fun to be around. If you are constantly in a frenzy trying to please everyone around you, it’s unlikely that you’ll be in good spirits.

Modify your style into being a person who does not try to please everyone. You do this because you know it will lift the weight of the world off your shoulders and reduce stress in many areas of your social life.

6. Stop Trying to Make Everyone Like You

Do you like everyone you meet? No one does. Knowing this, why should you expect everyone to like you?

Many of us have the most trouble with this when it comes to family and friends. The hard truth is that sometimes your relationship will certain individuals will never be as close as you want or need. What’s the answer? Find other people to achieve the closest you desire.

When we join a group that participates in an area that we identify with strongly we expect to have an easier time of getting along with the members. In many respects, you will, but personality differences will still be factor. If you join an organization with broader objectives like a fitness club as opposed to a vegetarian group, you may find more people that you get along with well.

Simplify your style into being a person who does not try to make everyone like you, but rather a person who relies on just being yourself. You do this because you understand the impossibility of making everyone like you and to reduce stress in your social activities.

7. Stop Grieving About Past Mistakes

Grieving about mistakes you’ve made in the past is a clear waste of time. The only possible outcome is that you’ll feel depressed in the present! And when you feel depressed, you greatly reduce your ability to take constructive action today that will improve your future.

If we hope to make the most of the present, we must be in the best possible state of mind. To do that we must keep our focus in the moment and on what we want to experience. When we think about the things we want, we bring about positive feelings that will energize us rather than depress us.

Adjust your style into being a person who doesn’t grieve about mistakes in the past but rather rejoices in what you have today and what you intend to manifest in the future. You do this because you know that by not grieving about past mistakes you reduce stress and increase the likelihood of positive results in the future.

8. Stop Worrying About What Might Happen in the Future

By worrying about what might happen in the future, we actually create the conditions for manifesting it. Most things we worry about never come true. According to the Law of Attraction, it takes a lot more negative thoughts to bring about bad results than it does to manifest positive outcomes. This explains for me why most of what we worry about never comes true. Worry is a waste of time. It’s also very damaging to your physical and mental health.

Simplify your style into being a person who doesn’t worry about what might happen in the future, but rather a person who imagines living the future that they desire in the present. You do this because you know that according to the Law of Attraction, you bring about what you think about and it will reduce stress in your body and life.

9. Stop Researching & Analyzing So Much and Start Doing

Researching and analyzing things in order to make the best possible decision is a good practice if it leads to a timely decision to act! If the research and analysis goes too far and decisions are postponed, this is a stress-producing problem.

The person who does no research makes decisions blindly, so little courage is required. The person who researches and analyzes things to nth degree usually lacks the courage to make decisions. The person who does a predetermined amount of research and analysis, makes timely decisions based the information at hand and their gut feelings, which requires considerable courage. The best practice then is to model your style after the people in the center of the continuum.

Modify your style in being a person who does a predetermined amount of research and analysis and then makes a timely decision based on the information gathered, gut feelings, and courage! You do this because you know that it will reduce stress and improve your productivity.

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If you think about the people in your life you admire, many of them probably have the style that I am encouraging. This style will reduce stress, enhance your health, and earn respect from others.

Author : Brad Paul

Posted by happy-pns at 10:34 PM

10 most important words

The most selfish one letter word………………..…….”I” -- Avoid it.

The most satisfying two letter word…………….….”WE” -- Use it

The most poisonous three letter word……………..”EGO” -- Kill it.

The most used four letter word……………………”LOVE” -- Value it.

The most pleasing five letter word……………….”SMILE” -- Keep it.

The fastest spreading six letter word…………….”RUMOUR” -- Ignore it.

The hardest working seven letter word………….”SUCCESS” -- Achieve it.

The most enviable eight letter word……………..”JEALOUSY” -- Distance it.

The most powerful nine letter word……………..”KNOWLEDGE” -- Acquire it.

The most essential ten letter word………………”FRIENDSHIP” -- Keep it ---

Sources : Mudraa.com

Posted by happy-pns at 4:07 AM

Caffeine: How much is too much?

If you rely on caffeine to wake you up and keep you going, you aren''t alone. Caffeine stimulates the central nervous system, alleviating fatigue and increasing wakefulness.

When to consider cutting back

For most people, moderate doses of caffeine 200 to 300 milligrams (mg), or about two to four cups of brewed coffee a day aren''t harmful. But some circumstances may warrant limiting or even ending your caffeine routine. Read on to see if any of these apply to you.

''Grande'' is your middle name

Though moderate caffeine intake isn''t likely to cause harm, too much can noticeably affect your health. Heavy daily caffeine use more than 500 to 600 mg a day, or about four to seven cups of coffee can cause:

Insomnia
Nervousness
Restlessness
Irritability
Nausea or other gastrointestinal problems
Fast or irregular heartbeat
Muscle tremors
Headaches
Anxiety

Even a little makes you jittery

Some people are more sensitive to caffeine than are others. If you''re susceptible to the effects of caffeine, just small amounts even one cup of coffee or tea may prompt unwanted effects, such as anxiety, restlessness, irritability and sleep problems. How you react to caffeine may be determined in part by how much caffeine you''re used to drinking. So, people who don''t regularly consume caffeine tend to be more sensitive to its negative effects. Other factors may include body mass, age, smoking habits, drug or hormone use, stress and health conditions such as anxiety disorders. Sex may even play a role: Research suggests that men are more susceptible to caffeine than are women.

You''re not getting enough sleep

Most adults need seven to eight hours of sleep each night. But caffeine can interfere with this much-needed sleep. Chronically losing sleep whether it''s from work, travel, stress or too much caffeine results in sleep deprivation. Sleep loss is cumulative, and even small nightly decreases can add up and disturb your daytime alertness and performance.

Using caffeine to mask sleep deprivation can create an unwelcome cycle. For example, you drink caffeinated beverages because you have trouble staying awake during the day. But the caffeine keeps you from falling asleep at night, shortening the length of time you sleep. Caffeine can also increase the number of times you wake up during the night and interfere with deep sleep, making your night less restful. You wake up tired the next day and reach for your morning jolt of Java.

The best way to break this cycle is to reduce the caffeine and add more hours of quality sleep each day. Try to avoid caffeinated beverages eight hours before your desired bedtime. Your body doesn''t store caffeine, but it takes many hours for it to eliminate the stimulant and its effects.

Posted by happy-pns at 12:49 AM

Dealing With Common Migraine Triggers

Food Triggers : One, two, or all of these foods can trigger a migraine so it''s important to identify the ones to which you are specifically sensitive. Because many of these can be an ingredient in a food product, read labels.

Common food triggers includes:
Aged cheeses, bananas, figs, raisins, beer, wine, hard liquor, red wine, dairy products (ice cream/milk/yogurt, cheese, Sour cream), fermented and pickled products, citrus fruits, papaya, passion fruit, red plums, seasoned salt, soy sauce, MSG, avocadoes, chocolate, lentils, nuts, peanuts and peanut butter, onions, pea pods, lima bean pods, nitrite containing meats and processed meats, saccharin/aspartame (diet sodas), sulfites in shrimp and processed potatoes, yeast containing products (donuts, breads).

Be Careful With Caffeine

Drinking or eating foods that contain caffeine can trigger a migraine; so can rapid or sudden withdrawal of caffeine. Remember that caffeine can be found in coffee, regular and diet sodas, teas, chocolate, and supplements, especially weight loss supplements.

Monitor Your Meds

Any medication that dilates blood vessels, like hydralazine or loniten, can also trigger a migraine. Other medications that may act as a trigger include: Cimetidine, fenfluramine, indomethacin, nitroglycerine, nifedipine, theophylline, Reserpine-containing drugs and estrogen in hormone replacement therapy or birth control pills. Talk to your doctor if you are taking one of these medications and you think it''s causing migraines. He can suggest other medications with a similar therapeutic action that are less likely to instigate an attack.

Changes in Emotions and Stress

Time pressures, major losses, anger, conflict, or depression can all bring on a migraine. Interestingly enough it''s the day-to-day stresses that are most likely to bring on an attack. Happy, emotionally-charged events, like getting married, moving to a new home, and even having a baby can unfortunately raise your risk migraine. Learning to make time for yourself and finding healthy ways to deal with stress are at the core of managing migraine attacks.

Sensory Overload

Migraines can be triggered by smells such as perfume, cigarette smoke, paint thinner, ammonia and cooking odors. Bright or flickering lights, sunlight, or the movement of a car or train can also instigate a migraine.

Get Good Sleep

Too much sleep or interrupted sleep patterns can be migraine triggers. You can minimize their frequency by prioritizing your sleep.

Changes in Weather and Altitude

Seasonal and abrupt changes in weather including temperature, barometric pressure, humidity, air quality or sudden rain can bring on a migraine. For instance, in California the Santa Ana winds can suddenly blow through and affect susceptible migraine patients.

Higher altitudes can also give you a headache. For example, mountaineers, hikers and skiers who suffer from migraines may experience them more frequently in higher altitudes. In fact, airplane travel may be enough to trigger a migraine in certain individuals.

Physical Factors

Any kind of excessive activity from a challenging workout to lifting heavy objects around the house can trigger a migraine. Even a difficult bowel movement can prompt an attack. It''s important to make healthy lifestyle changes.

Posted by happy-pns at 12:47 AM

6 Passwords to Happy Life

Each one of us desperately wants to be happy. If happiness is a treasure locked in a strong vault with six chambers, here are the six possible passwords. Read these without being disturbed, in private, absolute silence and without haste.

First Password "Simple" 'It is so simple to be happy, but it is so difficult to be simple.' Life is 99% clutter and 1% substance. If you are a computer and life is your RAM, then this 99% clutter is the virus which has jammed the free flow of happiness! Remove the unnecessary and in the end all you will be left with is happiness! But it requires a lot of courage to live simple. Absence of simplicity is making us unhappy all !

Second Password "Silence" The world is full of noise. Noise - of words, of thoughts, of visuals... Just remain silent for an entire day and your life will change...! Silence will evaporate every clutter in and around you. Silence not just of sound but of the mind as well!!! Silence never comes alone. It brings smile even when everything around you is on fire! It opens the eyes of the mind! Absence of silence is keeping us unhappy!

Third Password "Slow" Everyone on the Earth is running! But where? For what? Why?? It is all madness! 99 out of 100 are running because they don't know anything except running or because they see everyone around running. People are running without thinking. They don't want to be the odd man out! Stop. Step aside. Look how everyone is still madly running! Towards imaginary destinations which keep on shifting everyday and which they don't even know clearly!!! Leave the track. Get into the meadows! Death is nature's warning to us to slow down. The hypnotic pace of everyday life is fueling the unhappiness in our lives.

Fourth Password "Easy" Why complicate everything? Whom are we trying to impress? The person we are trying to impress is already busy trying to impress someone else? Why make it difficult? Are we fools? Keep everything easy and natural. Difficulty in every thought and action and emotion is blocking our path to happiness!

Fifth Password "Enjoy" The ultimate purpose of life is to enjoy life! Nothing is more important than life!! (But enjoyment must be such that it doesn't sow the seeds of loss of enjoyment at a later stage) If you are not enjoying, then you are not living! You are rich only when you live an enriched life. Enjoy the nature you miss everyday. Enjoy the food, the music, the emotions, the pleasures… Consuming life without enjoying is depriving us of happiness!

Sixth Password "Relax" Relax…life is a picnic…a grand party…It is not a job…not an interview…no race…no question…no challenge…no burden…no deadlines… Every clutter is our creation. We keep on reacting on everything in life, and life keeps hitting us back! Lack of rest and relaxation is keeping us tense! God wanted us to be happy, we used our "intelligence" and messed it all up!

Posted by happy-pns at 3:40 AM